It would really be wonderful if everyone agreed to everything. There would be no disagreements, no arguments, and no spoiling of relations. But then, there would also be no innovation and no growth. It is fine to disagree with a colleague at work. But it can jeopardise relations with a friendly colleague.
Hence, while disagreements are a part of any mature work place, it is important to do it politely. Especially if you do not want to spoil the rapport with a close team-member.
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Prabu.P.S , Sales Manager at Belkin International, says, “It can be tricky always, but it is all about how I choose the right words. Everyone is different and have different opinion. I listen to my friend’s opinion or idea fully without interrupting him or her. And then, I communicate how I feel about their opinion, rather directly disagree his idea or opinion.”
Here is how you can gracefully disagree with a team-member without spoiling your friendship.
Stick To Facts
A strong argument is one that uses facts over opinion. So, a compelling argument is one which relies on statistics and proofs to make your case. This also shows that you personally don’t have anything against an idea, just the facts suggest a better idea. So, don’t forget to place your emphasis on the reasoning and information supporting your ideas.
No Personal Attacks
You should not put down the other person or attack his or her ideas and beliefs. That is not at all helpful or productive. It also makes you really look bad in front of the team, and turns against you even if you have valid arguments. Instead, focus on illustrating why you feel the way you do. Remember, your goal is to effectively present your ideas, not disagree for the heck of it.
Don’t Forget To Listen
Even if you disagree with an idea, it is important to hear the person out, before you start speaking about your idea. Instead of just waiting for your turn, you should actively listen to what they have to say. You might actually be able to arrive on a better collaborative solution.
Realise When It Is Better To Give Up
You have to realise that you cannot win all arguments, and sometimes the team may decide to go with the other idea even when you disagree. At such times, it is better to gracefully get on board, instead of acting as a killjoy for the whole team. Perhaps one of the most important pieces of respectfully disagreeing with someone is knowing when you need to just call it quits and move on.
These work approaches will help you to have a fruitful disagreement at work, without spoiling friendship.