How To Deal With An Emotionally Abusive Boss?

What to do when your boss is a bully, and you cannot quit

 
How To Deal With An Emotionally Abusive Boss?
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Some of us have the misfortune of working with bosses who constantly yell or make their team members cry. And though often, the best way out is to quit, often you cannot do that because of financial constraints, or lack of opportunities in the moment.

So, while you can wait for an opportunity to come by and shift to a better work situation, there are some things you can do to better the situation when working for an emotionally abusive boss.

In the film, ‘Devil Wears Prada’, Meryl Streep insults Anne Hathaway in many instances, who can’t even quit because she needs the opportunity to build her career
In the film, ‘Devil Wears Prada’, Meryl Streep insults Anne Hathaway in many instances, who can’t even quit because she needs the opportunity to build her career

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Adarsh Sharat, Director and Co-Founder, MavenHasting Consulting, says, “Keep the conversation limited to matters of work. Don’t let the boss get into your personal space, by asking question about your family or hobbies. Keep the conversations limited to mails and messages, and avoid verbal communication. Be accessible only during work hours, and assertive when you have to say no to a specific request if it is unreasonable. Do not be the last to leave as you might get called in for a destructive conversation.”

So, here’s what you can do work with an emotionally abusive boss when you cannot quit.

Find A Stress Management Method For Yourself

Often, you cannot change the other person or do anything about it. In such situations, it is better to find a solution within yourself. Everyone has tools that work best for them, and it is about finding something that is cathartic. That might be exercising, or it could be watching something funny, or it could be spending time with friends and family. Moreover, seek support from others who have been in similar situations to help you feel less alone.

Find Ways To Work Away From The Boss

Find tasks or projects that will help you stay away from the boss as much as possible. Communicate with your boss regarding work to the minimum, but find ways to circumvent working directly with the boss. As soon as you learn warning signs of the boss’s outbursts, get out of the way.

Seek Support With Your Colleagues

Speak to your colleagues or team members. Even they will be undergoing the same situation and feeling the same pressures. So, speaking to them will help you find a solution and ways to deal better with such a boss.

These work approaches will help you stall the work situation with an emotionally abusive boss till you can find a better opportunity.

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