So, you think you are a really *nice guy* and yet you are quite often rejected by women. And this has made you think that women do not like nice guys. You keep on ranting that women only dig the bad boys while you continue being so nice to everyone around you. But what you never do is some self-reflection. So, let me do that for you.
Dear Very Nice Guy, You Are Not Even Nice
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Your definition of being nice is completely flawed. Being absolutely passive and doing everything that a woman says doesn’t make you nice. It simply makes you a pushover. Let go of your ideas of the *nice guy* and try to become a guy who is ACTUALLY nice. Women are not attracted to passive pushovers, women dig respectful men who can make their own decisions.
Oh The Entitlement!
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DO NOT use niceness as your dating strategy. Why do you think that if you are nice, you are automatically entitled to get a woman? No man, you are not. That is in fact, a very arrogant thinking from your side. There’s so much more you need to work on. Develop a sense of humor, be ambitious, do some good, genuinely help others and the list goes on. Instead of constantly TELLING how nice you are, try to actually be a good person for once.
Oh The Desperation!
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You are always trying too hard! First of all you are too nice (which is not even genuine) to a girl with an intention of GETTING HER. Then, when she is polite and is nice back at you, you think your romance has begun. But, hello nice guy! Wake up, please. That’s not romance. She didn’t give you ANY signs. Please for once start seeing the world as it is and not from your *nice guy wants a girl* lens. It is very different out here. Out here, it takes a lot more than just being nice to impress a woman.
You Were Not The One!
And sometimes, you can get rejected just because she didn’t feel like you were the one. Maybe, it had nothing to do with your niceness or anything to do with you even. She just didn’t feel like it. Or maybe she didn’t want a relationship with anyone at that stage. So, stop ranting that you are too nice for women as soon as you get rejected. Rejection is a part of living, embrace it and move on.
Always remember, not everything in the world is about you. And not everything in this world is about getting a woman to date you. Go out, explore the world and get a perspective. There’s a lot out there for you.