When You And Your Partner Have The Same Best Friend

You can share your food, your bed and your deepest darkest secrets with your partner, but can you both share a best friend?

 
When You And Your Partner Have The Same Best Friend
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The debate for “Can your partner also be your best friend” must be already settled if this one has seen the light of day. If I come to think of it, it actually is pretty interesting to see if you can willingly share a best friend – even if the person you’re sharing with is your best half. But what really happens when you share your best friend with your partner?

Sacred Territory

It can be a tricky ride. But you all got each other’s back.
It can be a tricky ride. But you all got each other’s back.

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When you’re discussing lover and best friend, they both stand equally (okay, sometimes equally) in the list of “Super Important People in Your Life.” They’re the only two persons in your life who keep you both, safe and wild while maintaining your sanity. Blessed, aren’t we now? But when it comes to making a call, would you be willing to merge these two super-powered entities into a liaison?

Complicated Dynamic

Yeah go that way to find some simple relationship dynamics. No room for that here.
Yeah go that way to find some simple relationship dynamics. No room for that here.

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You share your feelings about everything under the sun with both of them. You also let slip the annoyance you occasionally feel after a fight with your partner in front of your bestie. The same goes for venting out in front of your SO about how your best friend is distant after getting into a new relationship. When you share a best friend, they will too have someone to pour their feelings to about you. But surprise surprise, you will both be venting to the same person. Good luck, same person! :)))

It’s Like Co-Parenting, Really.

The bond you three share can be really delicate yet very strong.
The bond you three share can be really delicate yet very strong.

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Come on; level with us on this one. If you are the common best friend in this trio, be ready to be co-parented by your best friends. Two people who love you unconditionally and who want the best for you. They also stick through your drama and pamper you without expecting anything in return. These two cute people would go till the ends of the earth to protect you. Your best friends (now a couple) are technically performing the same thankless job that ideally one’s parents do, just to keep you happy. When they’re both carrying out their endless duties towards you in co-ordination with one another – isn’t that a form of co-parenting? Ask for your opinion? It’s a win-win for you buddy.

You End Up Being Jealous

Beyond jealousy, you three are stunning and timeless.
Beyond jealousy, you three are stunning and timeless.

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You love them both so much, but do you want to see any one of them share your quota of attention? They’re both always going to make fun of you and torture you – together. It’s a bittersweet feeling, you’ll figure as you go. You might even miss the time when you had your best friend and your SO all to yourself. No sharing, huh?

But in all honesty, it truly can be a dynamic full of love and care. It could be your safe place – only bigger. Imagine a place where you don’t have to choose between best friends and partner EVER because they’re always rooting for each other. Yes, it can get tiresome listening to how you should not drag a fight with your partner for two days and what you said to your best friend on dinner last night was really uncalled-for, but you’ll be thankful for how easy they make your life together.