What To Do When She Is Hurt Or Mad Or Both?

Tips to fix the tension when she is mad and/or hurt


A very common problem with relationships is the woman being coy or angry and the men having no clue as to why. Sometimes, and trust me on this, even we don’t know the reason behind our frustration! You cannot, however, give up on your woman so easily. If she is avoiding your calls or not talking to you, chances are, you have ruined things. But it’s never too late to fix it. Here is what you can do to make up for everything you have or haven’t done.

How to detect if she is hurt or mad?

On the surface level, it may seem like a very simple instance of response. If she responds aggressively, she is perhaps angry. If she is passive she is likely to be hurt. But anger doesn’t always manifest itself and operate within water tight paradigms and so doesn’t sorrow. In fact, the two go hand in hand. They are so intricately intertwined that it becomes difficult to separate one from the other. For instance, if you are forgetting her birthday, she could be angry and hurt. How can one be mutually exclusive of the other?

The only way to detect it is to know someone inside out so that you know what hurts them and what makes them raged.

What to do when you don’t think you can do anything?

Here’s a tip: It’s not over until it’s actually over.

Nothing says sorry like gifts

Nothing says sorry like gifts
Nothing says sorry like gifts

Women adore presents. But don’t go overboard so that she feels like you are trying to buy her. Trust me you don’t want her to get started on this. From simple and nice accessories to a simple sorry card can do wonders to your relationship. Women drool over small presents that make them feel special. If you can get it customized, you have her cooled down for sure!

Take her out!

By take her out, we don’t mean on a casual movie date. Take her out to a profound date, one that she will not be able to forget. You don’t have to go overboard and be dramatic, but nothing is more beautiful than an honest confession of how she makes you feel over a beautiful candlelight dinner date. The essence is about making her feel special and important!

She would love the chef in you

Contrary to popular belief, women do enjoy it when men cook for them. Cook a fancy meal for her and apologize for all the wrongs you have done. Give her some flowers, set the table and take out the dishes yourself. Believe me, she will appreciate it.

Write a song/poetry
Write a song/poetry

Write a song/poetry

Women are swept off their feet when men shower their affections with poetry and songs. How we can ever get enough of “tum ho toh gaata hai dil!” in Rock On? It was a heart touching rendering from Jo (Arjun Rampal) to his angry and hurt wife Debbie (Sahana Goswami). Even if you aren’t good with words, you can scribble something funny and she will appreciate the effort. –“roses are red, violets are blue, I cannot write poetry but I do love you!” – even this will do the job!

If you have hurt her, consciously or otherwise you must fix it. She deserves that to say the least. You can also take her on a vacation if you have the time and circumstances! If you have done something crazy, you need to do something just as crazy to compensate for that. And like we said, it’s never too late!

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