People think that infatuation and love are two sides of the same coin. Actually, Infatuation always has to do with physical bonding, physical contact, their appearance etc. Whilst, love has more or always to do with mental connection, emotional attachment etc. Thus it is clear that infatuation and love are way different from each other. There’s a saying which goes like, “If you like a flower, you simply pluck it. Whereas, if you love a flower, you’ll take care of it daily” This somewhere describes the difference between like (attraction) and love.
Are you into someone? And you don’t know whether you’re just attracted to their persona or truly love them? Answer these questions, which may help you to overcome this phase.
1. Did You Fall For Them Instantly Or Gradually With Time?
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Spoiler Alert: There’s nothing such as ‘Love at First Sight’. It’s always an attraction at first sight. Cause you always check out your crush on his/her physical appearance and not mental makeup. So if, you fell for them the first time you saw them, then it’s for sure that you were attracted towards them. And if you started falling for them gradually, by their actions and behavior, then yes, it may be love!
2. How Long Did Your ‘So-Confused Like/Love’ Feeling Last?
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Suppose, you fell in love with your crush from day one itself, then how long did that last? 1 week? or 2 weeks? Or Didn’t recede a bit at all? It is possible that you had strong feelings but they died down. But, may be you had feelings not-so-strong but firm. Infatuation is intense but short-lived. Love is comfortable but lasts longer.
3. Are You In Love With The Idea Of Someone?
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The best answer to this question is the movie, Ae Dil Hai Mushkil. The situation where Ayan (Ranbir Kapoor) feels he is truly and madly in love with Saba (Aishwarya Rai Bachchan), but in reality, he’s just infatuated towards her. Moral of the story: Infatuation is being in love with the idea of someone. Love is being in love with who the person really is.
4. Choose: Being Loud Or Being Quiet?
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If you’re in a relationship with the person whom you allegedly love, do you prefer showing off about it or keep it undercover? If you choose the former, chances are high that it is not love. Cause, you wanna let everyone know which is not their business at all. If you choose the latter, then yes you love that person. For you, it is only about letting that person know about your emotions and no one else.
5. Are You Shaky Or Solid About Your Feelings?
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Many times, an individual is not able to put a finger on a specific feeling. Once they feel they love, next they think its nothing but just a phase. For them, it depends upon certain situations, people, and their moods. They themselves are not sure, what it is. But when you truly love a person, you’re sure about it and need no clarification.
We hope, these self-evaluative questions would have cleared your mind and helped you to arrive at a firm decision. Any other questions, drop us a comment!