How To Be An Emotionally Available Partner!

Recognize emotional unavailability, understand it and avoid it.

 
How To Be An Emotionally Available Partner!
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A lot of times, we live in an invisible emotional bubble. It makes it difficult for others to enter our lives and helps us keep people at an arm’s length. While it might sound comforting and convenient, but what we don’t realize is that this emotional unavailability is damaging – for both our personal as well as professional relationships.

Being an emotionally available person will open up your mind to positivity in all walks of your life including friendships, familial relationships and professional bonds. Let us break it down for you:

Let Go Of The Fear

You have to trust your partner with your fear to build up the relationship
You have to trust your partner with your fear to build up the relationship

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Being emotionally unavailable doesn’t mean you do not have any emotions. It simply means you don’t share them. In most cases, it’s because you are scared. It can bet the fear of not being enough or fear of being left alone or fear of rejection or fear of intimacy or even fear of not being in control. When ignored (or even worst – denied), these deep-rooted fears have been the reason behind unexplained turmoil causing messy breakups.

Being Vulnerable Is Rare

Only when you are vulnerable in front of someone you trust will you realize how healing the process can be
Only when you are vulnerable in front of someone you trust will you realize how healing the process can be

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Let your guard down. Yes, protecting yourself is important but so is letting that special person in your life do that FOR YOU. Shutting down your feelings because you don’t like to be ‘weak’ is an excuse you need to stop using. In fact, vulnerability is rare and displays extreme emotional strength.

Communicate – Start Talking!

Talk to each other. A lot. Always.
Talk to each other. A lot. Always.

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Talk about how you feel about your significant other or about something that upsets you or brings you joy. Confiding in your partner leads to an exchange of trust which in turn leads to a stronger relationship. Sharing your thoughts and feelings with your partner directly is a great way to start being an emotionally available partner.

Pro Tip: Keep yourself from using terms like “You always…” or “Because of you…” or “You never…” while having a discussion. Instead, begin by using constructive terms like “Hey, maybe this is how we could go about this situation?” or “This situation/action makes me feel this way. Could you help me out with it?”

Set Boundaries – Tough, Yet Important

It is important to know your limits. Think about it and act accordingly
It is important to know your limits. Think about it and act accordingly

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While being emotionally available makes your relationship thrive, it is always advised to know your limits. Being vulnerable might create situations where you get hurt, so it is necessary for you to set boundaries before it’s too much to handle. Do not let yourself be emotionally abused or used. While such instances are not frequent, it is best to be wary, right?

Find Out The Real Reason Behind Your Emotional Unavailability!

Let your partner help you find out the reason. You might as well end up finding more reasons to be together
Let your partner help you find out the reason. You might as well end up finding more reasons to be together

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This is a tricky step, but it is always best to pull out a problem from its roots. It could be anything; it could be your entire upbringing or it could just be one particular incident in your life. Sometimes, the reason might just be a part of who you are. While all of us have our own reasons, it is extremely important to identify it and then, work on it.

Being emotionally available is easier said than done, we know! But keeping your feelings bottled up is going to weigh you down and with you, your relationship. So just trust your partner a bit, take the plunge and open up. It is worth the trouble, we promise!