It is natural for any two people in an intimate dynamic to have differences on several things. It is these differences that lead to fights and arguments and well, if you think that happens with you and your SO quite regularly, it may not be a bad sign after all.
What most people think is that conflict occurs when there is lack of understanding although, there are different ways in which couples can deal with conflict and actually arguing may be a good thing to do.
In terms of communication, when silence takes over the bigger role in a relationship, that is a red flag. Instead, if a couple regularly indulges in healthy fights, it shows how they are determined to stay together despite their differing opinions.
Couples therapist, Wendi L. Dumbroff, MA, LPC, in an interview states, “Differences of opinion, and conflicts will happen no matter how in love a couple may be. However, there are things that partners can do when they encounter difficulty, that are not only more useful ways to argue, but can actually foster closeness and connection.”
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Arguing In The Present Is More Important
One of the best ways couples can contain their fights and reach a resolution faster is by maintaining the argument in the present scenario. Involving past occurrences only adds to the resentment. Involving past events is also like taking a step back and you may end up fighting about something that you probably agreed to let go before.
Key Reason For Fighting Must Be To Convey Your Feelings
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One must know that their problems are way bigger if there are absolutely no fights happening between the couple because that may imply indifference. When the couple is close, one of the most common reasons that they would end up arguing with one another is because they wish to convey their feelings to one another.
It is not important that a couple stays on the same page always, it is important when they are willing to fight to get on to the same page!