Everyone, I mean everyone wants to be loved. We all yearn for a romantic relationship. As desirable as it sounds, it’s not all that easy to find. Even if you do, sometimes you get into the “wrong” one which is okay and sometimes you are just not ready for it which is okay too. It’s true and it can happen to any one of us. Wanting to be in a relationship but simply not being ready for one is normal and here’re the signs to identify your non-readiness.
You Need A Partner To Feel Happy
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A very common issue amongst us is to feel miserable if not in a relationship. And then, entering into one to get out of your own misery! What you don’t realize is that you must never get into a relationship for a reason like that. In order to get into a real and healthy relationship, you must first have a clear mind. When you enter into a relationship out of desperation to get coupled up, you’d hold on to that partner so tight so soon that you’d most likely sabotage the relationship anyway. Thus, with this mindset, you are definitely not ready for a relationship. If you are lonely or unhappy, work on it. Find yourself a hobby, do something you really like doing- read, write, sing, dance etc, but do not cling on to somebody else just for the sake of it.
You Just Don’t Want To Be In A Relationship
Yeah I know, this one doesn’t sound like a sign. It sounds something very obvious but hey, it is still very much ignored. People ignore their instincts and end up in a relationship they never wanted in the first place. It is the most important sign of all- the sign of NOT WANTING it! Do not fall into the pressure of friends or family or the society, do what YOU are ready for. If you know you don’t want a relationship right now, if you know you cannot be emotionally available for it, and if you know you won’t give your 100 per cent to the relationship, then you owe it to yourself and the potential partners to abort the mission! And you know what? You don’t even need to have a reason for not wanting a relationship. Sometimes, you just don’t. That’s it!
You Haven’t Moved On
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Your new partner will love you, hear you out, understand you and in the long run, will even be a part of everything you have been through. But what your new partner shouldn’t have to do is help you move on from your previous relationship. Start a relationship with a clean slate. If you still can’t figure out why your relationship ended or if you still do not know if you want to get back with your ex or if you still can’t let go of those memories, you are only going to end up in a rebound relationship if not worse. Nobody should have to put up with all your shit. So, do yourself a favor and be honest. In fact, even if you have moved on but you still seek vengeance and there is extreme bitterness inside you for your ex, it’s best to give yourself some time to let go of that as well before you start a new relationship.
If any of the above signs sound like you, please start working on it before you enter into a relationship. You must understand that your partner deserves a “ready you” for a healthy and long term relationship. In fact, if you are not ready for a relationship, if you are not yet in a good emotional shape, then you’re more likely to attract the kind of partners that you don’t even want to be in a relationship with.
So you see how it’s a ‘lose-lose’ situation while you both deserve a win!