The institution of marriage is a beautiful thing. Though the concept may have been distorted but the tradition is an age old one which had probably been the only constant through all these years of changes. Marriage itself is based on certain stereotypical pre conceived ideas and it is absolutely impossible to do away with them or so it was believed until very recently when the internet has been flooded with examples of people breaking conventions and setting a record. And we are not just talking about one person but a bunch of people who are walking on the road to progression and we truly are so proud of them.
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It hasn’t been long since we watched a bride refusing to cry while going away from her parents’ house saying how it will always be her home to which she can come back anytime she wants and she also makes a path-breaking statement saying how it is impossible to repay their debts. While she is setting bride goals albeit in a different way for all the potential future brides out there, a father has outdone himself elsewhere. Very recently in a wedding a father refused to perform the sacred and ancient ritual of kannyadaan which when literally translated means giving away one’s daughter. He doesn’t see his daughter as something of a property that can be given away. In a country where women have been objectified for so long this is clearly a step in the right direction.
I’m at a wedding with female pandits. They introduce the bride as the daughter of <mother’s name> and <father’s name> (mom first!!!). The bride’s dad gave a speech saying he wasn’t doing kanyadaan because his daughter wasn’t property to give away. 🔥🔥🔥 I’m so impressed. pic.twitter.com/JXqHdbap9D
— Asmita (@asmitaghosh18) February 4, 2019
This tradition of kannyadaan is an age old ritual performed by so many fathers generation after generations. But now the time has come to at least question them if not completely eradicate them. The first step to progress is of course challenging existing systems and as they say all major revolutions start in the mind. These mindless rituals we blindly follow or have been taught to follow sometimes don’t even make sense. Are we doing our bit to ensure they are tried and tested? Conflicts aren’t necessarily bad and sometimes raising questions is important else development would be just another word whose meaning we all know but which we have failed to gain a first-hand experience of.
We are so happy and incredibly proud to see things are changing. We hope this attitude gets contagious and is carried forward. And that’s not all, the priests in the wedding happened to be women as well! Yes, women are terrific but age old meaningless rituals that support patriarchy are not.