So, you have finally succeeded in doing the hard part. You have finally asked your crush out on a date! What’s even better is that they have even agreed to it. Your date is now probably perceiving you as a confident individual, sure of your feelings. But only you know that this is as far from the truth as it gets. You are actually close to hyperventilating right now.
Don’t worry, you are not alone! You have just joined a bandwagon of many such people who do have their apprehensions when it comes to going out on a date. Here are three of the most common dating fears, and what you can do to overcome them-
The Fear Of Embarrassing Yourself
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Many people don’t even ask their love interest out, because they fear that they may become tight-lipped, and it will all be too awkward to face. To make matters worse, your peers too will get to know about the date if it becomes a disaster. This unnecessary pressure is totally not you. If you are already on a date, try to control your panic responses. Take slow, controlled breaths and recall why you are in that position in the first place. Take a few sips of water if you feel that your mouth is going dry, and try to begin with a casual conversation. It will help you both become comfortable.
The Fear Of Being Rejected
Rejection has to be one of the worst feelings to creep up the human mind. Even the aftermath of rejection is not pretty, when you feel that you won’t be happy ever again. This again is a common fear that prevents people from taking that decisive step ahead. What’s more, if you are fearing a rejection right in the middle of your date, it could be really devastating.
This fear centres round our lack of confidence in being the centre of attention. On a date, the other person will definitely be only focusing on you, and your behaviour and you other non-verbal nuances, which makes you further go in the doldrums of that possible rejection. Not good.
This is high time to raise the bar of your self-esteem and conquer this fear. You are unique in your own amazing way, and you should stay motivated to encounter the best.
The Fear Of Commitment
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Now, a majority of people in the current crop of youngsters have this fear; the fear of taking the responsibility of a full-fledged relationship. They prefer to keep things casual to the greatest possible extent. This ‘casual’ approach is nothing but the fear of commitment. You might also fear commitment because maybe, you don’t yet trust your judgement/choice. The perfect way to overcome such a fear is to be very open about such doubts with your partner.
Remember, keeping your partner in the loop will not only help them in understanding you, but also make them realize the fact that you chose to trust them with your vulnerabilities.
Now you know about these fears and even the probable ways to keep them at bay. Why aren’t you on that date yet?