It is quite common to be scared of disappointing others but it gets even scarier when you end up disappointing yourself. Being disappointed in yourself can be very tiring as it makes you question everything you are and everything you have accomplished. When you fall short of your own expectations, you throw yourself on the roads of self-judgment. It may not be easy to get up from that road and start running again, but it is possible. It is possible if you are willing to. Let us guide you how you can learn your lessons, leave that road of self disappointment and move on.
Feel And Accept
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As long as you do not let yourself feel the anger and accept that you are disappointed in yourself, you will never be able to break out of it. So do yourself a favor and feel every feeling without ignoring any. Let your mind process it, accept it, and then work your way out of it. When you truly accept what went wrong, your mind will be able to react to it. Give yourself that safe space to let off some steam. Cry, shout, scream, do whatever you need to feel better. At the end of the day whatever happened is supposed to teach you and make you stronger, not devalue you. Remember that!
This can never be repeated enough number of times- Please feel free to seek help! Please feel free to talk. The process where you let your heart out and somebody sincerely listens is in itself therapeutic. A lot can be healed by just talking. Words are extremely powerful!
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Things are always huge when they are in your head. Let it out, confide in someone, and you will see how petty your problems look in comparison to the exaggerated version your mind had created. Find a loving and patient ear for yourself and let it all out. Also, it is always helpful to get someone else’s perspective on your situation. Remember how you comforted your friend when they failed in an important exam? Remember how the two of you discussed all the alternatives and worked it out? Yes, that. Find someone who’d do that for you and let them!
Before You Move On…
Well of course this is about moving on but then read the article topic again; it is also about coming back. It is also about how to bounce back and start slaying again. In order to do that, there is one important step just before moving on. It involves asking yourself the important questions and learning your lessons. Like, what did you do wrong? Do you notice a pattern? How can you improve?
For example- If you made an inconsiderate joke about someone and it hurt their feelings, ask yourself if it is something you do every now and then? If yes, try and break that pattern. Consciously train yourself to say positive things about people and control the urge of making fun of them. It is even okay if you make written plans and to-dos for your next experience. That’s how you can ensure a different experience this time, right?
Learning your lessons from the situation that led you to self disappointment and self-judgment is extremely important. That’s the only way to guarantee that you do not end up here once again for the very same reasons.
There you go, that’s how you make a comeback from the vicious roads of self-judgment and disappointments. Also, do not be too hard on yourself about this whole thing. Remember that it’s good to expect and it is even better to feel disappointment because that means you care.