To err is human! And to err monumentally is human too! Big or small, we all make mistakes. But sometimes we commit a mistake SO BAD that it seems impossible to come back from it. You begin to think that you can never recover from it. But you are wrong. Do not let your mistakes define you. You are not your mistakes. You are how you react to your mistakes. You can either let your mistakes sabotage your life or you can own up and make amends. Here’re few important tips-
Accept You Mistake But Be Reasonable
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It all begins with acceptance. First of all, you have to take responsibility of what you have done. Owning up to a mistake will not make it right but you will definitely be respected for it. Even if you aren’t, it is the right thing to do. It is important that you act quickly. If you take your time before taking ownership of the mistake, the discussion would have escalated by then and you would have lost your window. If you want people to move on, help them by taking responsibility or else they will forever hold a grudge.
While it is important to realize your mistake, it is also important to keep some perspective. You have to be reasonable and think logically. Your mistake will always seem very (very!) bad to YOU but in reality, it could be just bad or just very bad. You need to get some air and think clearly before blaming yourself for all the wrong that is happening. Along with realizing your mistake, you must also realize that you are going to recover from it.
It Is Time To Act
It is not all inside the head. Just believing that this shall pass won’t actually make it pass. You have to do your part. It begins with making amends or let’s call it making things right. But before you do that, you must forgive yourself. You will never be able to think clearly without having forgiven yourself. Only after moving on from your mistake can you help fix what you broke.
Once that is done, MAKE THINGS RIGHT! Do whatever it takes. From a simple apology to building a tree house, do what it takes. Trust me, more than the person you have wronged, you are doing this for yourself. YOU will feel better and more confident after doing this.
It’s NOT All In The Past
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It is great to move on but do not move on with an attitude of “Jo ho gaya so ho gaya”. That would be completely counterproductive. For all we know, you will end up in the same situation again. In order to avoid that, learning from your mistake should be an essential part of moving on. You have learned your lesson by committing a mistake. Now that you know better, do better! It is as simple as that. This is the only way of coming back from a horrible mistake.
All the best! It is all going to be okay. Just be honest and do your part!