Being an introvert, you might be missing out on many opportunities. Professionally or otherwise, just taking a little initiative can go a long way. It’s not rocket science. Thinking of how easy extroverts have it at starting a conversation and keeping it going amazes you? Don’t you worry. Here’s how introverts like ourselves can be more social:
Forget The Filter
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The major reason you’re hesitant in striking a conversation is because of a strenuous filter in your brain. All the things that pop up in your head that you could possibly say out loud are scanned by this high maintenance filter in your brain. It dismisses any and all ideas. But it doesn’t have to be like that. Be less critical of your thoughts and go ahead. “Excuse me, I just wanted to say you look nice,” “Hey, that is a nice pair of boots. Where did you get them?” or a simple “Hey, you look like you could use some help” if you see someone lost. You wouldn’t mind answering to that line now, would you? Speak your mind and you’d be surprised.
Pro Tip: A few conversation starters like “The weather is getting better by the hour. Don’t you think?” or “What are you most fun thing you’ve done/seen today?”.
You Don’t Have To Be The Talker
Contrary to popular belief, the opposite of introvert is not an excessive talker. To keep an interesting conversation going, you can follow a simple trick. Open-ended questions. You can ask questions like “Why would you prefer this profession over this?” or “Why do you think this political party is winning in 2019?”. Even though you don’t have to talk as much, you can still keep the conversation from becoming dull. Listen, think and then respond. Let them know you’re curious about things despite of being a rather quiet person and you’ll be fine.
Treat everyone like a friend you’ve had for ages and you’re seeing them after a long time.
Embrace Your Inner-Introvert
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Introverts truly have a raw appeal and extroverts often find them charming and mysterious. It is absolutely okay that you have a hard time breaking the ice but you are all rainbows and sunshine beyond that. Self-preservation is an art. Don’t use it as an excuse to avoid human interactions. Outshining your current awesome qualities with noob attempts at transforming into an extrovert overnight ain’t going to help. Your true character strengths will help you in the long run. So be who you are while trying to exceed the number of interactions you have with people. Engaging with people will slowly and gradually increase your social circle.
It is important to be comfortable in your own skin no matter how great you are on the social scene. People you converse with will notice your self-confidence whether or not you’re the star of the party. Don’t worry about the impression you’ll create. Just get out there and show ’em the cool person you really are.