All our lives we’ve been hearing of the same old “Honesty is the Best Policy”. But is there such a thing as too much honesty? If you’re someone who speaks the truth and a lot of it, here’s how you can moderate it for human consumption-
Generate Honesty ONLY When Asked For
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Basically, don’t drop truth bombs unless begged for. While you don’t want your friends and loved ones to live in a world of delusions, but it’s not your job to break their bubble. Any opinion isn’t considered helpful unless it is asked for. So, save your dose of reality for when one actually turns to you for it. For all you know, you actually might have an image amongst your of being the real one. When someone is ready gauge the intensity of the situation, trust that your friends will come to you. That’s when you put it out there. Not before.
Keep A Lid On It
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Your honesty may not always be welcome. That doesn’t mean you lie. In order to maintain a cordial relationship with some people and in a situation where the truth isn’t of utmost importance, you could maybe try to not offer your wisdom completely. Avert the situation to avoid a fight or an ugly scenario or simply to avoid upsetting anyone. Being the bearer of bad news isn’t your job so you can simply contain the truth unless it’s absolutely necessary for the parties involved to know.
Use Softer Words
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Reality is rarely sweet, right? The least you could do if you are the one to take the blindfolds off is to take it off slowly. Blurting out the truth so bluntly is equally as painful as ripping out a band aid. It doesn’t take a lot to be nice, so do the bare minimum and put it out there but constructively. Don’t let your words be hurtful. Use words like “I understand your situation but the fact of the matter is this ..” or “While your position in this circumstance is difficult, the truth is ..”. Acknowledge that you recognize their struggle but the fact overpowers any emotions, nicely.
What’s Your End Goal?
Is your end goal to state facts, to end a relationship, to get into a fight or to make things change? While the truth might remain unchanged, how you put it out there might have an effect on how constructive it could be. Your words, tone and simply the manner of how you deliver your honest thoughts need to be altered in compliance with your end goal. If you do want to end a relationship or want to risk starting a fight, you may go all out with the truth bombs in the harshest way possible fully knowing there’s no way you’re coming back from that. But if you do wish to just state facts or make a constructive change with it, you have to simply state how you feel about it, how it affects you and how the change will positively affect both of you like you would in a normal conversation.
There you go, now you know how to be calculatedly honest! Trust us, it will help you go a long long way. At least longer than those who are too honest 😛